Miscarriage Doula
Miscarriage Doula
Miscarriage, whether of a wanted or unwanted pregnancy, is a transition that deserves thoughtful support. As a miscarriage doula, I am trained to provide emotional, mental, physical, and informational support during and after miscarriage (including those that require medical care like surgery or medication).
Virtual miscarriage doula services are highly individualized to the person having the experience, but can look like:
- Information about medical miscarriage management, interventions, and choices
- Help with planning and education resources
- Support as you advocate for your needs and wishes
- Help communicating with medical providers, family, friends, and other support people
- Comfort measures and pain management techniques
- Suggestions and guidance for emotional self-care
- Suggestions and guidance for physical self-care, including herbal support
- Listening and processing
- Compassionate witnessing
- Support and education post-miscarriage
For some other ideas of what it’s like to have a miscarriage doula, check out these articles:
“Why I Hired a Bereavement Doula For My Pregnancy Loss” at Blood and Milk
“How Loss Doulas Help Women Process The Grief Of Miscarriage” at Well + Good
In general, we work together for a period of weeks (2-6) and have 1-3 phone calls or video sessions, plus lots of text and email.
NOTE: I do not provide medical advice regarding miscarriage. My services are supportive only.
Miscarriage doula services are by donation.
Carrie was able to help guide me through my pregnancy loss, not only as an emotional support, but as a source of knowledge about the medical issues that I may encounter surrounding miscarriage. She made me feel safe and supported and listened to, which gave me the space I needed to grieve as well as to begin the healing process.
My Philosophy
As a doula, I do not judge your choices, your actions, your desires, or your experience. I’m here to support you in figuring out what makes sense for you—that might include decision-making, healing, processing, and more.
My Training
I have taken the Holding Space for Pregnancy Loss course from the Institute for the Study of Birth, Breath, and Death, as well as Samantha Zipporah’s Holistic Miscarriage and Abortion Support course. Learn more about me.
Frequently Asked Questions
Is it possible for you to support me virtually around the time of my miscarriage?
Yes! As of 4/2020, all miscarriage support is virtual. It can happen via text, email, FaceTime, Zoom, or other platforms.
Who should hire a miscarriage doula?
Miscarriage doula support is ideal for people who are looking for dedicated support during a challenging time of life. There are no right or wrong feelings about having a miscarriage, but people may want to have a supportive, knowledgable, and non-judgmental person to talk through things with, before, during and after the experience—someone who is solely there to hear, see, and hold space, with no other agenda.
What can I expect from you as a virtual miscarriage doula?
We will decide, together, what our relationship looks like, but it will always include emotional support and space-holding for you during this transition. In general, we work together for a period of weeks (2-6) and have 1-3 phone calls or video sessions, plus lots of text and email.
Contact Me
Email me at carriemurphydoula@gmail.com or fill out the form below.